How Does Stress Affect Your Health?
that causes physiological changes to allow the body to combat stressful situations.
This stress response, also known as the “fight or flight response,”
is activated in case of an emergency.
However, this response can become chronically activated during
prolonged periods of stress, which can cause wear and tear on the body —
both physical and emotional.
use of substances or behaviors to try to relieve their stress.
These substances or behaviors may include food,
alcohol, tobacco, drugs, gambling, sex, shopping, and the Internet.
Rather than relieving the stress and returning the body to a relaxed state,
these substances and compulsive behaviors tend to keep the body in a
stressed state causing more problems. The distressed person becomes
trapped in a vicious circle.
How do you find out the signs of Your Stress?
leading to a variety of physical symptoms, including:
- Dizziness or a general feeling of “being out of it”
- General aches and pains
- Grinding teeth, clenched jaw
- Indigestion or acid reflux symptoms
- Increase in or loss of appetite
- Muscle tension in neck, face or shoulders
- Problems sleeping
- Racing heart
- Cold and sweaty palms
- Tiredness, exhaustion
- Weight gain or loss
- Upset stomach, diarrhea
- Sexual difficulties
Tips to reduce Your Stress:
Here are some tips to help you keep stress at bay.
- Keep a positive attitude.
- Accept that there are events that you cannot control.
- Be assertive instead of aggressive. Assert your feelings, opinions, or beliefs instead of becoming angry, defensive, or passive.
- Learn and practice relaxation techniques; try meditation, yoga, or tai-chi.
- Exercise regularly. Your body can fight stress better when it is fit.
- Eat healthy, well-balanced meals.
- Learn to manage your time more effectively.
- Set limits appropriately and say no to requests that would create excessive stress in your life.
- Make time for hobbies and interests.
- Get enough rest and sleep. Your body needs time to recover from stressful events.
- Don’t rely on alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors to reduce stress.
- Seek out social support. Spend enough time with those you love.
- Seek treatment with a psychologist or other mental health professional trained in stress management or biofeedback techniques to learn more healthy ways of dealing with the stress in your life.
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Thank you for allowing me to put that case..which may enlighten some of our friends here!
Dear friend! From your statements I could figure out her problems to certain level. She might have been an “OCD” patient only, if she cleans up the floor, utensils or her hands & parts as often. This cleaning habit comes mostly for the patients who feel some guilt buried in to their sub-conscious mind. And the event or things caused the so-called guilt may not be worth considering, through the perception of the society.
But for them, in your case the lady who seems to be childish in nature, might be hurting one for her. And the Iron deficiency, your 3rd point, does not ever make the people to behave strangely and suspecting the dear friends as the “under cover police officers” either. Iron deficiency causes only the biological symptoms and never such psychological disorders. And your 8th point clearly says that she had severely suffered and affected by the unfriendly and prejudiced people in the past. The problem with this kind of OCD people is, they would not be amicable with others and they usually lacking the sociability.
They are childish in their mental growth to at least some degree due to the depression formed in the child hood days by the parents, teachers or the society. They might have seen or experienced some indigestible events in their earlier periods, which should have caused unbearable pain and an irreparable loss to their Sub-conscious mind. One thing is for sure, she is badly in need of a good hear-ted being to unburden herself. But at the same time from your 5th point it is subtle, that due to her inferiority complex instead of revealing it openly to you that how much you need to her, she goes in reversible way that she need not meet you and continue to be your friend. Rather she can go and get a nicer person than your self!! Her psychological expectation is that you should tell her that you could never survive without her companionship so that she could have some grip on this life and meaning to live on with you a good friend!.
At the same time her self-esteem shall not be questioned for begging some one’s love towards her!!.
Superiority complex and inferiority complex, both are same only in a single coin but placed back to back in position. One who poses herself superior, feels inwardly that she is inferior to others, but acting in the other way!
Solution is…if you can find out a good psychologist who knows hypnotherapy very well, who only can help her to go in to her sub conscious mind and eliminate some unwanted datas imprinted in the past and in turn can implant some positive suggestions permanently inside her inner mind.
The Top 10 Book list was compiled by Positive Psychology expert Ben Dean, PhD and actually includes 11 titles (now that’s positive thinking!). Positive psychology is the scientific study of optimal human functioning, in short human happiness. The books below represent in Dean’s opinion the best cross-section of books on the subject. (Links to Amazon are provided.)
1. Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for MeaningMy father was a prisoner of war in Japan during World War II, so I’ve always had a special interest in Frankl’s moving account of his own experience as a prisoner in Auschwitz. This book describes these experiences and then his approach to therapy (logotherapy) which is based on his assumption that our deepest desire is to find meaning and purpose in life. I now believe that Frankl’s striking ability to surmount his concentration camp experience was due, in part, to a an unusually strong genetic predisposition toward hope and optimism.2. Martin E. P. Seligman’s Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting FulfillmentMarty Seligman, Ph.D. is the founding father of Positive Psychology with an extraordinary bio which you can peruse at www.authentichappiness.org. In this book he integrates theory and research to map out how to lead a life of positive emotion, engagement, and meaning. Use this book in conjunction with the assessments at www.authentichappiness.org. (If you don’t already have Marty’s Learned Optimism or The Optimistic Child, then I recommend adding these classics to your positive psychology library as well.)3. C. R. Snyder and Shane Lopez’s Handbook of Positive PsychologyPublished in 2001, the “Handbook” was the first systematic attempt to bring together the leading scholars in the, then, emerging field of positive psychology. Begins with an historical overview by Seligman. Ends assertively with “The Future of Positive Psychology: A Declaration of Independence.” Essential for any positive psychology library.4. Lisa Aspinwall and Ursula Staudinger’s A Psychology of Human Strengths: Fundamental Questions and Future Directions for a Positive PsychologyIf I were teaching a positive psychology class, this would be the textbook. The editors ask chapter contributors (including Daniel Kahneman, Walter Mischel, Robert Sternberg, Carol Ryff, and Alice Isen) to comment on the “potentials and pitfalls” of a psychology of human strengths.5. Christopher Peterson and Martin E.P. Seligman’s Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and ClassificationThe CSV, sometimes dubbed the “UnDSM is *the* must-have book for anyone interested in coaching and positive psychology. Each chapter is devoted to one of 24 Strengths–strengths such as curiosity, wisdom, zest, forgiveness, and gratitude. Once you or your clients take the VIA Strengths Survey at www.authentichappiness.org, look up your signature strengths in the Handbook.6. Alex Linley and Stephen Joseph’s Positive Psychology in PracticeThis is another must-have book for coaches. Rich with edited chapters by some of the leading figures in positive psychology who outline the implications of their work for practice. Filled with interesting ideas. In its foreword, Marty Seligman writes: “This volume is the cutting edge of positive psychology and the emblem of its future.”7. Abraham H. Maslow’s Toward a Psychology of Being, 3rd EditionMaslow has been called the grandfather of positive psychology. In this classic work (first published in 1968), Maslow writes about values, growth, well-being, peak experiences, and self-actualization.8. Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte’s The Resilience Factor: 7 Keys to Finding Your Inner Strength and Overcoming Life’s HurdlesFrom the country’s preeminent resilience research team, psychologists Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte. This book is superb. With an impressive integration of theory and research, it offers seven practical strategies that have been proven to increase people’s capacity to overcome adversity, negotiate daily obstacles, and bounce back from life-altering events. Highly recommended.9. Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton’s Now, Discover Your StrengthsThis is a must-read if you work with clients in business settings. Marcus Buckingham (author of First, Break All the Rules) and the late Don Clifton, Chair of the Gallup International Research & Education Center), call for a “strengths revolution” in the workplace. Their premise is that employees and managers can be much more effective at work and in life by building on their strengths (rather than working on their weaknesses). Their “StrengthsFinder”survey provides a nice complement to the VIA Strengths Survey.10. Geoffrey Miller’s The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human NatureThis is the most provocative book on the list. Evolutionary Psychologist Geoffrey Miller presents a compelling argument that character strengths such as creativity, humor, kindness, and leadership were shaped through sexual selection.Finally, in the spirit of Positive Psychology, let me add an 11th book to my top ten list–a classic that should be on your bookshelf:11. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s Flow: The Psychology of Optimal ExperienceAs you know, “flow” is the state in which we are so completely absorbed in a task that we barely notice the passage of time. According to Csikszentmihalyi (and the research he presents), the more challenging, flow-inducing activities we can introduce into our lives, the happier we are. Among other excellent books by Csikszentmihalyi is Finding Flow and Creativity. He also wrote a book with Howard Gardner and William Damon called Good Work that explores what it means to do socially responsible, excellent work.A personal note: At one time, I thought “flow” was an either-or state. You were either in flow or not in flow. In fact, it’s more accurate to view it as a continuum. On a ten-point scale, you could be at four, at seven, at nine, and so on.The first time I heard Marty (Seligman) speak, he shared a mnemonic to help remember how Csikszentmihalyi’s name is pronounced. Touch your “cheeks.” Then think (drugs) “sent me high”. So it’s “cheeks-sent-me-high” I still can’t spell his name, but I can finally pronounce it.Courtesy: Web World
—- FDR – First Inaugural Address, March 4, 1933
“One of the things which danger does to you after a time is -, well, to kill emotion. I don’t think I shall ever feel anything again except fear. None of us can hate anymore – or love.”
—- Graham Greene – The Confidential Agent (1939)“What are fears but voices airy?
Whispering harm where harm is not.
And deluding the unwary
Till the fatal bolt is shot!”
“Fear – jealousy – money – revenge – and protecting someone you love.”
—- Frederick Knott – Max Halliday, listing the five important motives for murder, Dial M for Murder (1952)
“What potions have I drunk of Siren tears,
Distill’d from limbecks foul as hell within,
Applying fears to hopes, and hopes to fears,
Still losing when I saw myself to win!”
—- Will – Sonnets
“Fear is a tyrant and a despot, more terrible than the rack, more potent than the snake.”
—- Edgar Wallace – The Clue of the Twisted Candle (1916)
“- Tush! Tush! Fear little boys with bugs.”
—- Will – The Taming of the Shrew
“All of us are born with a set of instinctive fears–of falling, of the dark, of lobsters, of falling on lobsters in the dark, or speaking before a Rotary Club, and of the words “Some Assembly Required.”
—- Dave Barry
“Am I afraid of high notes? Of course I am afraid. What sane man is not?”
—- Luciano Pavarotti
“Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.”
—- German Proverb
“Men fear death as children fear to go in the dark.”
—- Francis Bacon
“The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear.”
— H.P. Lovecraft
“In politics, what begins in fear usually ends in folly.”
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
— Frank Herbert, Dune – Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear
“A man who has been in danger,
When he comes out of it forgets his fears,
And sometimes he forgets his promises.”
—- Euripides – Iphigenia in Tauris (414-12 BC) “He either fears his fate too much,Or his deserts are small,
That puts it not unto the touch
To win or lose it all”
—- James Graham – Marquis of Montrose
“I have almost forgot the taste of fears.
The time has been my senses would have cool’d
To hear a night shriek, and my fell of hair
Would at a dismal treatise rouse and stir
As life were in’t. I have supp’d full with horrors;
Direness, familiar to my slaughterous thoughts,
Cannot once start me.”
—- Will – Macbeth “Being frightened is an experience you can’t buy.”—- Anthony Price – Sion Crossing (1984) “What we fear comes to pass more speedily than what we hope.”—- Publilius Syrus – Moral Sayings (1st C B.C.) “Solitude scares me. It makes me think about love, death, and war. I need distraction from anxious, black thoughts.”
—- Brigitte Bardot “Why are we scared to die? Do any of us remember being scared when we were born?”
—- Trevor Kay “A good scare is worth more to a man than good advice.”
—- Edgar Watson Howe – Country Town Sayings (1911) Courage is not the lack of fear but the ability to face it.”
—- Lt. John B. Putnam Jr. (1921-1944)